*the names of all the clients have been changed to protect confidentiality
These case studies demonstrate how my life coaching helps my clients in their personal goal achievement and handle any obstacles that stand in the way of success. Whatever issues you bring to coaching, we will usually set a goal as part of the way forward. So I'd love to do the same for you for both your personal and professional goals.
Amelia was 34 when she came to me for coaching around her goals.
She told me she loved to travel. Her career goal was to be National Sales Manager for her company and one of the attractions to Amelia was that it would involve a lot of interstate and overseas travel and being away from home for days, even weeks, at a time.
Amelia and her partner had also set a goal to start a family by the time she was 35.
You guessed it!
The goals were not compatible if she was to give her career and her desire to be a parent the time and attention they needed.
The result was that Amelia never seemed to have the real motivation and drive she needed to achieve her career goal and it was never quite the right time to start a family.
Through coaching she became aware that it was the conflict between her goals was causing the stalemate.
So I asked her: "What in your heart of hearts, you really want the most, your career or starting a family?"
The family option won out as the priority.
Amelia came to realise that if she kept going this way - being pulled in two directions by conflicting goals - her career goal would stall and having a family could become one of those "some-day" goals that might never happen.
She chose to reorganise her career goal to something just as stimulating and rewarding but without the travel component. Her love of overseas travel would now be satisfied by family vacations.
When we work together I'll help you make sure your goals are in alignment and not conflict with each other and decide which is really the most important so you can power forward.
Jack, a lawyer, came to a workshop I was running on setting and achieving goals.
When I asked the participants to share their achieved goals, Jack gloomily said he couldn’t think of any goals he had achieved to share with the group.
I knew he must have a law degree, so in the break I asked him if he had every really acknowledged achieving this goal and all the hard work it took.
Jack told me that he had studied long and hard at university with a goal to get his law degree first time around. But he revealed that when he passed with honours, he let it pass without any celebration. After all, it was only what was expected of him by his high achieving family.
Jack immediately put all his energy into finding a position within a law firm and being a success at it. He did well but never feel particular successful.
The lights went on for Jack when he saw that he had glossed over this major achievement, (as well as several sporting wins).
His energy changed and everyone in the workshop could see and feel it. He realized he had had sailed past several other achieved goals without acknowledgement.
Jack committed to celebrating those lost and forgotten achieved goals by buying a new sound system for his car and a special dinner with his wife.
He was then back in achiever mode in the workshop and ready to set a new goal.
When I coach you you may come to recognise goals you have achieved but just glossed over as you rushed forward. This invariably results in more confidence and motivation for any new goals you may have. Read more about how I can coach you reach your goals here.
Phillipa came to me for coaching because her goal to write about her amazing life had stalled and she was finding it a chore. She had started out all enthusiastic. It was what she felt she should do at her time of life, and with such a fascinating story to tell.
Everybody in her circle said she should because she had so much information and wisdom to share. She was quite enthusiastic in the beginning but it never really flowed and her efforts soon diminished to a trickle of words.
She felt terrible about it all. People kept asking her ‘How’s the book coming on?’ So she forced herself to keep going, convinced it was something she had to finish.
The truth that came out with my coaching was that Phillipa had never really wanted to write a book! She felt no burning need to put it all out there. Her goal was based on other people’s opinions and expectations.
When she came to realize this, she made the choice not to continue writing and let the goal go. She was proud of, and comfortable with that decision.
The thing to be learned from Phillipa's experience is to make sure your goals are what you really want and not something you or other people think you should do. And, as your coach, I'll make sure you do this.
There are goals to be achieved for all areas of coaching, so if there is another area you are looking for help with, choose one of the images below for more about how I can coach you to move forward in all areas of your life...